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Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:46

Rant of the day: No Sir stay over there !

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It's about just the role that each man or woman are able to have. And he told me that he didn't have a feminine bone in his body, that he had no feminine energy at all. So when I hear that it tells me that I'm not going to be able to lean on him when it comes to communication. He's not going to listen. It tells me that he is not going to be able to open up his mind to see me

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@chitchatwithkk

Men are told to some of this was commentary written by a man underneath what she said, but it was essentially men are told to minimize emotions, fix emotions, not to be vulnerable. And yet that is exactly what women are looking for. We want the connection over emotions. We want to be able to express them, not necessarily have them fixed, right? And not to minimize them, not to be dismissed
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Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 1:45
I to my post, I say, you are so right. Like, Tom has changed. Like, we're not in the time where Grandma and Grandpa just sit there and no matter what they dealt with whatever, not having any morals or values. There were days where women didn't have a voice. So that day is gone. And there were days where me and weren't allowed to cry. It was considered a weakness, and that's gone
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@MsColes77
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:46
Or maybe they have just come across a lot of challenging women where they feel like, okay, well, I've got to overdo it because this woman is forcing me to be that, because she's trying to be the head too. And it's like we can't have two heads here. And so, you know, I just think that if we go back to God's original order and design for man and woman as far as our roles and our attributes, I think we'll be great
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Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 5:00

@MsColes77

But you that woman out there who wants to have her own business and wants to be out in the world and have her own money and wants time away from the house and you don't want to just sit in the house all the time, then you can't be with that man who thinks that you're just going to stay home, cook, clean, take her kids. That's the old fashioned way. That's over
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@MsColes77
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:28

@chitchatwithkk

But to your point about one income families, I know several one income families that live well, and it's not because they're wealthy. It's because they've made sacrifices to live that way. They drive one car, they live in a modest size home, and they live on a budget, and they do everything on a budget, and they're able to sufficiently run their homes and take care of their families. And they do it all with the mom staying at home
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Carly D
@Astroality · 1:59
And I think this is so hard for most people to do right, because they start feeling a connection with someone, and they're like, I'm really vibing with this guy. I'm really vibing with this girl, whoever it is, right? And then they don't want to give up on the fact that they liked where the connection started or whatnot. And then they start ignoring the red flags, and it starts with the first or second conversation. There's major red flags
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Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 1:34

@Astroality

And we're just so stubborn and stuck on things, and I'm saying, hey, I've been down a road to where they were scared to be emotional, scared to be supportive. It was kind of like you had to beg for it. Why don't I do that anymore? We are mature
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@Astroality
Carly D
@Astroality · 1:13

@chitchatwithkk

And I just always appreciate when people are bold enough to put it out there and say like no, I know what it takes to have a seat at my table and if you are not prepared to pay the price for that seat that is totally fine. There is nothing wrong with that. But you won't be allowed to sit here
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Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 3:27

@MsColes77

It. Hey, I definitely get exactly where you're coming from. And it is all about preference as far as what people believe and what they want and desire. For me, I'm just I can't sit still. I can't I can't sit still. And I'm always trying to do something. So for the relationship to where they want the woman, just to kind of, like, take care of the home. And taking care of the home is a job
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@Scribe7
Mike W
@Scribe7 · 4:59
You. This is Mike Scribe, Seven. Great topic as usual. I can only get like through two before I felt like I had to say something and also no males responded. So it sounds like it sounds pretty it sounds real general to me. It sounds mike that if you mike like you need to have feminine energy in order to have emotion. Now to me there's no two men that feel and act and respond to any situation the same. Neither. No. Two women. Two women
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Mike W
@Scribe7 · 4:59
That's a human thing. So if you want to know what it's like to be human, first let people be. Because they're being themselves and they doing the best they can with what they got, no matter whether it was nurture or nature or whatever the case may be. But not no, every woman in the world ain't going to see me in that condition. Only my wife, only my girl
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Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 3:10

@Scribe7

I've been with the preppy people, the ones that have more, the ones that don't have nothing. And I don't care. It's not about the material things at all. It's about the mental. If you can't meet me on a mental level, I'm sorry, it's not going to work. If a man trusts a woman and a woman trust a man, they are going to trust their emotions with that person. That's what comes with it
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Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 3:05
I know where I come from. And it's a matter of the fact of the respect. Like, I'm not going to be in a house with a man who's going to argue with me all day too, because I'm not going to argue with him because I don't have time for that. We all have our feelings. We know what we want, we know what we need. And that's how it should be. Like the outside world doesn't matter
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Mike W
@Scribe7 · 5:00

@chitchatwithkk

And I'm like I'm saying you can't generalize it because there's some women that feel different, act different, respond different, you know what I mean? So then a man is supposed to take on Mike, a feminine type thing in order to be loving, caring, respectful. That's not exclusively a female thing. Males and females have those hormones and genes and everything else to respond to a situation
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Mike W
@Scribe7 · 5:00
It. So now, since I really appreciate your sweat and I really appreciate the way you presented it and somehow you got your point across and how you felt about it, but it felt neutral, you know what I mean? But it's a trend going it's a trend going on if it's not, you know what I mean, not qualifying the definition of a man is being redefined
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Brian Foreman
@BKFOREMAN69 · 5:00
I got one tear, though, and I said, that is a phrase I have taught so many people in my life, my daughters specifically. When someone is in so much anger and so much disgust with the world, ask them who hurt you? Be prepared to sit down. Be prepared to listen. But we've all been there. We've all been hurt. We've all been rejected. And I'm sorry. You met a man who thought that women can't be both
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Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:59
Hello. I do want to say thank you for listening. Thank you for following. Thank you for raising some women who are strong. Thank you for not only being the father figure, but also being the friend, the supporter, the provider. You kind of remind me of my dad some, but I've never seen my dad cry. I haven't seen him cry
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