Because I don't ever do that. So I know that if I am intimate with someone, I have reached a certain kind of level with them. However, I. Like I said, I'm starting to notice more and more that people are beginning to have sex on first dates. They are meeting people off the Internet, and the first time they see them, they're going for it. They're expecting people to be okay with it

#askswell #sex #relatioonship #expectations #boubdaries

Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:57
I mean, there's a lot of people I know that slept together, like, real early first date, and they are wifed up, husband up. They happy. Because it's not. It just flip flops at a certain age. It's not like he's gauging you on a respect level at this point based on if you had sex with him, from what I've seen, you know, and like you mentioned, too, you wrote

With only one body to ever give away, that person better be SPECIAL, because I consider my body special.

Well, unless he's, like, really, really really honest and good luck with that. If you find him, let me know. I'll send him a postcard. But. But to me, if I were to get into a relationship right now, I would wait until I felt comfortable with him enough to share, as I said before, the one and only body I will ever have in my life. What does that mean? That means he has to be freaking special
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 3:22
I want the dating, the wooing, the, um, the character. I want you to get to know me inside and out. I want it to be so built up that our first time is amazing. And then every time after that is amazing. Because I know you. You know me. That now, that's if I had to do it again. But I love my husband now, and I'm grateful for what we have. It's beautiful
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 2:01
But I am tired of, like, having one date, like you said, like, you, like, you know, those one days, I'm tired of it. Like, I don't want one days. I want a relationship. Like, I want a relationship. I don't want to just do one day. I want to have somebody that I can go places with, hang with, go on trips with, go out to eat with. Like, I want all of that
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 3:13
But at the same time, would you rather be lonely or stuck with something that you got to explain to somebody the rest of your life? Well, I got herpes or maybe even aids. I've had patients who've had AIDS, and that can be very hard on your body sometimes people who have AIDS, nose can run for no reason, lips dripping for no reason
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:43


And the funny part is, the whole time that I was on this date, I was just thinking, when he touched me like that, I was thinking, man, like, what's my other friend gonna think? It's kinda ridiculous. But. But anyways, I knew that I wasn't gonna do that because that's just not how I roll
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 1:04


Hey, KK. No, honey, it's not making you lose anything. It's making you wait a little bit longer. But when you finally do get what you are looking for, it'll be everything that you needed. And some. Sometimes it's good, honey, to wait until something is right, you know? Because when it's right, it's right
Richard Taliaferro
@richtaliaferro · 3:04
How are you feeling? How are you thinking? Are, you know, are you okay? And just keeping those lines of communication open, I think serves a relationship much better. And because not every day is going to be sunshine and roses and if you want the relationship to last, communication with each other is critical. I really do believe that. I think if you're not talking to each other about how the relationships going, you know, I think it's a recipe for trouble
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 1:06


When he does text, he texts me all his hearts and kissy faces, but I don't even respond with that because he needs to know. Like, he knows how valuable I was and, you know, or I am. He knows about you. I am. And, you know, I understood him completely and I learned. You know, I learned and I listened. But anyways, everyone else is just so quick. But I know someone is coming. That's for me
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:14


Because I want someone who's going to take me on dates, not someone who's just going to want to sit in the house. And then when I was over there, like, before I came in, medically, he was like, well, I'm not going to do anything to you. You know, so, like, that made a little difference. So when we first met up or whatever, you know, I'm not going
Finley Ave
@finnave · 4:24
But, yeah, I end up having sex a lot of the time, either on the first date or, like, within the first couple times of meeting the person. And to be fair, I have been in relationships a lot, so also, that's only been in my single time, which has been quite a few years ago now. So I can't say I'm that same person today, but, yeah, a lot of the times I will say not so great sex
Kwa NateKo
@kwa · 4:48
You do want to be with a woman who clearly wants to have sex with you. Right. And I don't know. For me, I think if depending on your spirits, you may try with true and, like, hard and fast rules. For me, I've always just hung with people I like. And if things happen, they happen. And you don't kind of put pressure on yourself to make. Make things that way. But again, I don't speak to these experiences
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 1:52


Hey, thanks so much for responding. Sorry about the, you know, the delay. I do think that men are a little bit different when it comes to that first encounter. You meet a lot of men who are willing to take the risk on the first time, and I think more so women are not, or some women anyway, but I'm one of them that I'm not willing. I'm just not
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 3:35


And it's unfortunate that I've kind of been forced to have to get used to people being one date only. But it's all cool. Like I said, I know that I'm a beautiful person inside and out. And I know that I'm going to give someone the best company, the best time, the best experience one day. Just got to be patient for
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 0:20


Hey. Not to come back, because just in case that you didn't listen to the last response I gave to the last gentleman. Yes, you are right. I'm a person who has to have a mental connection because it ain't going nowhere if I don't. So I can't just, like, jump in. I have to have. Because I believe that sex is much more than just the act of doing. Thanks so much