Mitchell Pou
@castuchia · 2:47
Is there such thing as gender roles
There's no big deal. And she said, Well, I'm the woman. I'm not supposed to be taking out the trash. And that just got me thinking, are we so h*** bent on gender roles that little things are now starting arguments in our daily lives? Like, when did we begin where all of a sudden now everything has a gender role?
I just run it on out there. But David works at Toyota and that's his domain. And the house basically what I do. It's like a management type thing and it runs well. We agree on a lot of things and so there really isn't I know it seems kind of boring to have somebody who's just going to paint a big rosy picture
Jack .
@zejacques · 1:46
I don't really see one or the other as masculine or feminine. But if my partner prefers to take out the trash, I'm cool to do the dishes. And it's kind of like a workload thing, but then at the same time kind of what you mentioned, I don't think I then always have to do the dishes. Like, if I'm bored or tired or whatever, maybe it would be cool for me not to do them
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:46
I don't look down upon the people who still conform to such roles because as patriarchal societies dictate, it is a very comforting system to know where a man fits in the dynamic of a relationship or dynamic of a family and where the woman fits. But I personally would like it to be split up duties, whatever those duties may be. We stick to those duties and we can interchange the duties as well if that so fits. Also, I do laundry. I know some guys don't do laundry
Mitchell Pou
@castuchia · 1:03
He more does his thing at Toyota. So thank you so much again for your response. I'm trying to come up with more topics and hope to hear from you soon
Mitchell Pou
@castuchia · 1:38
Thank you so much for your response. Cause that's the same thing I was saying to my wife. I was like, hey, you know, it doesn't have to be a specific role because of, you know, this is more masculine or this is more feminine because I have friends that are house husbands and their wife is the breadwinner because they so happen to have the more high paying job
Mitchell Pou
@castuchia · 2:11
She's like, I didn't know you cooked something. I said, well, I was here, so I gladly cook. It's no big deal. And I was explaining that to her because she forgot. And she was like, you know what? You're right
Zara Lisbon
@ZLisbon · 3:51
So he reminded me that if you go back 100 years, 1000 years, 2000 years, 3000 years, 4000 years, 5000 years, there's going to be and if you travel the whole world, you're going to see matriarchal societies, you're going to see societies with just completely different male female roles. And you're even going to see societies that are much more gender neutral and less binary, less obsessed with male female differences in general
Mitchell Pou
@castuchia · 2:10
But thank you again for your feedback and I love your point of view on it, how you and your husband split roles, because like you said, he's good at cooking and doing dishes. So pou offset it by taking out the trash and walking the dogs. That's what kind of society we need to be at this point. We need to be able to split roles based off what the other loan likes
I can say it's come up in my personal relationship as well. I think each person is their own decision maker in this game and you get to decide on what you want to do and your partner's decision and opinion matters heavily on this. I don't think either or mentality is helpful in this circumstance of like exclusion factor where either, for instance, a male can only do the trash and a lady can only do the dishes. And again, gender in that sense is a little bit different
So I guess what I meant by some of us sit down and some of us stand up is basically when you're out in public, which restroom do you visit? And there's that's kind of as far as we go with the the roles here. I know for my my husband, if it involves a machine, he'll do it. So he'll mow the lawn, he'll do the dishwasher and he'll do the laundry because it involves a machine
Marley Musarra
@MarleyMusarra · 4:57
And society is very much based on that 24 hours rhythm where it's like nine to five wake up at this time. Again, I could go on so many tangents, but what I will say is I used to be hardcore feminists. Like women can do anything men can do. I don't need help with anything from men. I can take out the trash myself and I can lift the heavy things myself. I can do anything by myself
Marley Musarra
@MarleyMusarra · 3:12
And just like, when I look at a space, the feminine essence is more likely to see all of the different details that are aesthetically unpleasing to the eye. That's a proven thing. Yeah. Then I'm going to feel the call to clean more. So just recognizing that it's both that there are stereotypical gender roles that society has kind of created for us. Men are the breadwinners and women are the cookers and cleaners