It's like getting rid of a burden. And that's the sad state of affairs. Of course things are improving and women are getting independent. They are educating themselves. They're realizing that marriage is not the be all and the end of it all. But having said that, why isn't living given more importance? Why a child out of wedlock is considered more respectable than just having a child?
Aishani Chatterjee
@Aishani · 4:55
But yes, I also believe that here the rate of acceptance of that fact is low because we know there are so many instances of, for example, a woman, if she's new in a city, she's at times not allowed to rent a place because she is not married. And people don't usually want to let single women to rent places because they associate this singlehood with a lot of negative connotations. So yes, of course this exists
Aishani Chatterjee
@Aishani · 3:28
So yes, basically, in conclusion, I think for some marriage is a necessity, especially for women in rural areas, marriage is a necessity out of financial need and for some, marriages and necessity in terms of companionship and also we are told, right, that a married life is way more fulfilling. We are told this and we are taught this right from our childhood, that we need someone in order to have, quote unquote, happy life
I'm not going to waste my money on throwing a big bash for complete jokers to come and binge on the food. I'm not going to do that. I really just want to go to some hills and get married in a small temple. I just really want to get married in a hodi in jeans and have a few of my close friends and relatives around me at the time
So now I just want to live my life peacefully with a partner, a companion, somebody who accompanies me on holidays and lunches and brunches and parties, who just hangs out with me, somebody to call my own, somebody to share my life with, somebody to just chill out with, just chill out with. I'm very, very casual. I look at it all very naturally and organically and it's not a necessity to basically answer your question, it's not all a necessity
Aishani Chatterjee
@Aishani · 2:49
I basically was talking about that in my reply as well, that I think some people who choose to get married, even though they could have spent their entire lives staying single and being by themselves, leading their life the way they want, many such people actually choose to get married because they want that companionship. And like you said, you need a companion while watching a movie or maybe playing a board game. It's nice the way you view marriage and the idea of marriage for the sake of companionship
I think it's very important to have a free, happy life. And it's only now that I've been there and done that that I feel the need for companionship. And I feel that that everybody's, all my friends, et cetera, married. So now the only way to enjoy, to keep enjoying myself is to have my own wife and go to parties and go to holidays and go watch movies, go have lunches, branches. So I hope you understand what I'm saying
To answer the original question, I'm so glad you invited me to this conversation. This conversation should be more mainstream. More people should start asking this question. Start questioning the whole idea of settling down, getting married, having kids. This is definitely happening in the west. So, in fact, people are yesterday I was watching the news and now people are also I mean, this is disconnected or this is a digression from this topic. People are even giving up religion
Aishani Chatterjee
@Aishani · 1:46
And that's fine. That's more than fine. Everyone should have the right to live their life the way they want to. Like I said, you do you and I hope that this plan that you have of getting married at a temple on a hill, but you've visualizes according to your timeline and yeah. Good night to you, too. Bye
Taha Abbas
@taha_oracle · 5:00
Most of them at least, and very few, have the audacity or the courage to continue their education or their practice or stand up for themselves if their husband is not allowing them to live independently. Because many people, families or men, they represent themselves as modern or they have certain values that involve freedom and everything just as a facade, because they belong to a certain class, but they still are prejudiced and they have these beliefs because they are following the tradition and they want to fit in the society
Kunal Jain
@sonofindia · 4:26
Chand that's where the whole system was collapsing and failing. They had no idea that you need much more than these three things. Whether it's an education, it's your beauty or your family values. In my view, what you need is more a kind of compatibility, which is a duty of your parents or somebody who's older than you at that time to explain you that you would be able to thrive or be successful in your marriage or would be very happy with that person
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Sreeja V
@Wordsmith · 3:22
Hi, Mahamna. Thank you so much for inviting me to this conversation. And I agree with every bit that you've said here. And what is sad is that women themselves push other women to this sort of vicious circle. And it's often women who become mothers, right, who as soon as their girls grow up and are ready, who have completed their education, are at the helm of a good career, these mothers then start feeling the need to push their children into marriage
Piyush Porwal
@JohnP · 1:17
Actually, I think there is different situations in rural and urban areas because in urban areas there is not such much such force on women or girls to get married in early age. But I think in rural areas because of various reasons I think the woman or girls are getting married early due to societal pressures and family pressures. But as the conditions are improving the state of education opportunities and the modernization is rapidly increasing in Indian society. So the things, the situations are changing