Braxxton Brown
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"…So the difference between that situation and this one, even though this one is a relationship and one was a friendship, is I just left. And so I can see the change in that aspect for it. And then it says I'm not alone, so why do I feel like I am? No, I was very much alone because the things that I need as far as my love language to receive gives me that alone feeling. Therefore, I am alone.…"
"…One thing that we all, myself included, that we all need to truly work on is when somebody is talking about their pain and what they're going through, how dare you get offended of what they say when they're going through that emotional turmoil in that moment? Because in that moment, they're speaking on what is triggering them and hurting them. So even me, how dare I feel away about somebody expressing their pain? How dare you all feel away about somebody expressing their pain?…"
"…It is sometimes so easy to be so giving up until you get to a point where you might not have any bit left to give and you need to go into self preservation mode. So I can truly understand the giving, giving, giving. Maybe not always receiving and feeling a little bit on the burnt outside, but definitely always good to take a moment for yourself, yourself with the word no and learn to reassess when you can help, when you can save, when you can give.…"
"…But what I particularly wanted to reply to you was that I was completely unaware of his side of things, and listening to you just kind of made me it was like a slap in the face, and it made me be aware that I might be what his side of things would be like. Right. I'm just trying to figure out how to work things because I want to know more about things that happened in your relationship. I don't want to be the b****.…"
"…And then you can also relax a little bit because you don't have that sense of, I got to defend myself. And I think that's a part of it, too. We hear things, we get triggered, and we operate in the spirit of defense, and we're so defensive that we can't even hear the message or the pain that this person has. And then we say something or do something that impacts them that further puts them into their trauma.…"
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