This well made me laugh so hard and also made me realize that I need advice in this new wild world we are living in in where people are dating on Zoom. I find it terrifying. I know people are doing it. I maybe even potentially agreed to a virtual date that I would feel way too guilty to bail on. But I also feel like it's super strange. And so I'm asking you all, please help me figure out Zoom dating 101 because I need a class
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:20
I fell inside the way you talk and how you think and how you riff and how you say the word or the way you breathe between words like that is sexy. So that's my anti Zoom love advice. Yeah, I'll leave it there. We'll leave it there
Bowie Rowan
@bowie · 0:38
Here message made me laugh because I have been aggressively sending voice messages to everyone I know anymore because Swell has kind of made me hate texting when I know that I could have an audio conversation instead. And so I definitely feel very drawn to this idea of small conversation for dating. We'll see how it goes. If you hear of anyone else that has success, please share these success stories
So I heard about Zoom dating before, and honestly, I've even been suggested to it, and it's not my thing, and I don't even want to try it just due to the fact that eventually this Zoom date is going to turn into a Cam show. And I mean, I personally am not into Cam shows. I'd rather just do the whole act in person, but nonetheless, it's going to turn into a camp show
Bowie Rowan
@bowie · 0:56
Although you made me laugh so much. Yeah, I think that this is my biggest question around Zoom dates. I'm like, is this just a general assumption that people have? And like, I don't want to go into anything not having read the syllabus because I signed up too late. Sorry, I just have to extend the school metaphor there since I'm a nerd
Rita Maradei
@Rm73 · 0:45
Hi I love the idea of the swell dating. I think that's perfect to fall in love with somebody's voice first before seeing the person getting sick and tired of texting dating. Really you can't really feel their emotions. I think talking is the best way of feeling how one person is feeling about the other
Meranda Troutt
@MerTroutt · 1:29
So yeah, I think that's a really interesting point to bring up is the swell in dating and things like that as far as your Zoom date, I don't know if you ever went on it, did you? I think that a lot of people would benefit from hearing that me mostly because I'm nosey
Bowie Rowan
@bowie · 1:49
So I will say my Zoom dating Troutt was short lived, and ultimately I think I'm pretty happy about that because I think I spend enough time in front of screens already, and I have definitely gotten much more into just having audio conversations on Swell, mostly with some of my closest friends and other people who live far away
Meranda Troutt
@MerTroutt · 0:15
Yeah, none of that is going on here currently not up for things like that, but I'm so happy that your Zoom date went well and it's awesome that you guys are neighbors. You guys can go on dog walks and all that now. And it's funny how that works, right? The world
I think it's I think it's just a natural progression. The Internet has been used for dating for a very, very long time. I mean, I've been married for a number of years now, so obviously I'm not doing any dating or anything like that, but I think what was touched on is I think an excellent use of the Internet and things like swell and things like Zoom in general is that it is a lot harder to talk to people who don't know
We watched Spiderweick Together sort of fun, and we talked a little bit, but I was so awkward and nervous, and I sort of pushed her away because I didn't think I was good enough, but that's another swell for another time, Deborah fell in love with your idea of swell dates. It just sounds so romantic, and I definitely have a preference for my partner's voice. If it sounds a certain way that I don't like, I become less attractive to them
Bowie Rowan
@bowie · 4:52
Hi Rose. First of all, thank you for making me laugh. Your story about the blind date was pretty funny because yeah, I also think voice is really important, similar to to a laugh. I know if I really like someone's laugh or if it makes me feel weird for some bizarre reason, it makes a huge difference for me in how comfortable or attracted I am to someone. So yeah, voice is important. I think you're right
He found a lot of weirdos there, but, yeah, I came back here to tell you a little more about that date. I actually saw this guy at a pizza parlor. He was working, and so he was attending someone else, and I went to the cashier, and I was like, hey, do you have that guy's number? He's sort of cute. I might want to go on a date with him, and she's like, oh, shoot
Bowie Rowan
@bowie · 1:27
I think that's really powerful. And also I was actually just talking with a friend today who's married, and we were talking about how challenging it can be within a marriage to work through, maybe certain issues where you would have felt more free to explore them and heal them and mess up when you're single. And I do think there's a real opportunity in being single to do a lot of really important healing and growing work and just exploration with yourself, too