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Bowie Rowan
@bowie · 1:46

How do you make the "right" decision?

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Anyway, it started to be so vague. But the reason I'm talking like this is because I'm more interested in hearing what you think about the larger question for me here, which is, how do you know for you personally, when you've made the right decision in any given situation?

On having a mini existential dilemma

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@ElasticBD
Greg Dickson
@ElasticBD · 1:37

Compare the decision against my values, beliefs, morals and ethics

And so if I'm making a decision that's outside of my values, morals, ethics and beliefs, it's not the right decision. Now it sounds rather simplistic what I'm saying, and it requires some conscious self reflection to take the time to consider what your values, police, morals and ethics are, and how in certain situations are you going to apply them universally, or are there some variations and adaptations that you need, or you might be willing to make depending on the circumstances or not?
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@Ramya
Ramya V
@Ramya · 1:41

Self worth is the compass for most of my decisions

So taking the fear and the what is out of the situation does help me a lot and make things a lot clearer for me. What if I regret? This is a question that often comes up when I have to make a hard decision. But then I kind of try telling myself that my decision, the one that I'm taking right now is probably the right one at that given point in time, based on my specific needs and goals at that given point in time
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@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 2:19

Sometimes you don’t know and that’s just gonna have to be fine enough.

There have been instances where reassurances of pattern behavior that I intuitively warned about pointed out still occurred. That's usually a great hallmark of like, okay, I guess I made the right decision there because this thing that I told them was going to happen did happen. So where does that leave me? But it can be hard when it's people that you're close to, and then when it comes to food and stuff like that, that's easy, right? No
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Bowie Rowan
@bowie · 1:48

@MerelyHuman thank you

I really appreciated what you had to say, and honestly, it made me immediately have just feel a sense of compassion towards myself, because when you are talking about looking back at reflecting on periods of your life and times when you had to set a boundary with someone or in any kind of relationship and seeing how, yes, at that time, you did make the right decision and everything you said about that just made me remember how contextual the unquote decision can be
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Bowie Rowan
@bowie · 2:46

@Wuandurful

Hey, Rowan, I loved hearing what you had to say, especially the sound of your voice when you're talking about the pain that can come along with making these decisions really resonated with me, because it really, really can be painful. And it was reminding me of those corny moments in TV shows that still make me cry, though, when you see a character having to do the right thing. But it's hard or there's consequences to it that aren't ideal
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Shawn Schepps
@Shawn_Christy · 1:19
I have known that I've made the right decision by using my gut and have made the wrong decision by not listening to my gut or the person inside of me who is trying to keep me alive and help me survive. I just said, Period, you know why? I just wrote an email and I used microphone on my cell where you have to say, Period, so sorry. Ignore that. Yeah
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