As a matter of fact, I probably won't text you first again. And I won't respond to the next set of text messages that you send to me or calls that you try to get a hold of me. Like, I just won't respond. I'll just be like, no, the time for you to give me a response or tell me whatever your excuse was, was during the time that you were actually supposed to be doing whatever it was that you were supposed to be doing
From Silence
@FromSilence · 1:25
And part of my default way of looking at the world is the idea that I should give everyone the benefit of the doubt that I can until they give me a reason not to. So for me, I look at it from the angle of how would I want to respond to somebody if I had to do that, for whatever reason? And so if I responded that way, for me it would be being petty. But see, I haven't lived your experience
Blair Redmond
@blairbearing · 1:23
So I wouldn't say that it's petty. I wouldn't think that it's petty based on just my own personal experience. But I guess really I just wanted to see how other people handle situations like this. Is it any different for anyone else? I don't know. I know the world takes all types and we're all just doing the very best with what we have, but it's just kind of like my little rant today. It is kind of like one of my pet peeves
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:38
And I said, from the event you went to. Because he even called me from the hotel from where the event occurred. And I saw where he read the message. Nothing for eight solid days. Yes, I counted. Not intentionally, but by the time he responded back and I was like, Wait a minute. I messaged him like, oh, no, that is not his track record. And so I acknowledged it and he admits to it
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 1:38
And I'm saying, that's fine, that's fine, that's fine. If this is the anniversary of his father's passing and he becomes a little sad, grief picks up in a different way around this time. Trust me. My father passed in 2016. I have my moments throughout the year and especially around the anniversary of his death. However, I honor my commitments and I responded to his message and said, thanks for letting me know
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 1:01
Okay, so I have a followup question before I answer that. How much time has passed between when they said that they would reach out to you and when they actually do? Like, are we talking they told you that they would shoot you a message or call you at at 05:00 in the afternoon and it was eight in the afternoon, or are we talking it was a week later
Blair Redmond
@blairbearing · 1:17
But I mean, really, it's all in context, right? You have to take everything with it. And I think that life does happen. Like what you said, he said, kind of leaning into what you said. And I feel like as someone who has gone through a lot of things, maybe I feel like I can say this
Blair Redmond
@blairbearing · 1:26
And necessarily, like, I don't want to say a timely matter, I would say in a respect of my time matter. Right, because you said you were going to do something. So more than likely, I probably set time out of my day to do that with you, to be available, to have a call, to sit on the phone with someone, because I like to pay attention and be there
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 0:27
I'm always nosy with the details. I appreciate you responding back. And judging by what I heard in your response, done. Just done, in my opinion. Always opinion based. But it's disrespectful of your time, and don't nobody have time for that. So I think you're doing the right thing. Not petty at all. Thank you again, and I can't wait to hear more from you