I am these days choosing to be peaceful rather than be right. Because I think it is such a great way to have conversations with people specifically, people you don't agree with at all. And over the course of the past eleven years, I have had a lot of these conversations. Conversations with people I ideologically abhor. I know these are very strong words, but there are some beliefs that are your core beliefs, right?
Sreeja V
@Wordsmith · 2:04
Hi, Binati. Well, peace of mind any day is what I would say. Especially over the last few years I have learned to accept people and situations the way they AR it's among the key tenets from my spiritual practice that I kind of follow and it has helped me a great deal, kept my mind from overthinking and the fallout or the repercussions of having had your say many times it comes at a cost which is invariably of mine
Sagar Bhosale
@sagarbhosale · 4:01
Hello, Binati. Actually, when I started listening to this, well, the initial half is about, you know, you are putting a point across and I don't know, for some or other reason meghan exactly. With the political ideology currently that I used to have not in the recent times. Now I just say, okay, that is I learned it from a friend of mine. His name is Shivram krishnamurdi is very cynical and sarcasm. He's superb
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:59
For most things, from diet to how we comport ourselves politically, we have to just be gentle about considering the moment we're in, how we're feeling, who's around us, that's repercussions of what we're about to say and hope that we make choices that reflect our values and that protect those we love. And those are very complicated things. So thank you for the introduction of this conversation. I think it's very fertile
Benedict Garrett
@Bendi_G · 4:54
Maybe just have a light discussion with them if you're can, and if you can't, love them for what they are and who they are, not what they necessarily always think and say and believe
Aayan Banerjee
@BasTalk · 4:13
So if you see how the definition of truth transitioned from one state of being to the other and hence now to bring you back to your conversation, we will never be at a situation where we agree to all the truths by anybody because there can't be one. Which is why they say to each their own. Somebody's chicken is somebody's burger. And so it is not about being peaceful or letting go of an argument. It is what you choose to be at that moment in time
Binati Sheth
@Binati_Sheth · 2:52
Pick your battle. And if it is not a worthy battle, why ruin your headspace? So do things that matter and do things that actually lead to something productive for you and the high you get from being right, it's not productive for anyone. So, thank you so much. I see they're lot replies to this. So I'm looking forward to hearing all of them and defining the opinion, so to speak
Binati Sheth
@Binati_Sheth · 4:59
Religion and food preferences in my opinion people have very personal associations to all of these topics because there's actual beliefs and acquired beliefs working in tandem with lived experience very personal lived experience because religion is about faith. Everyone has faith in different things. Politics is about a lot of things a lot of things and when you have kitchidi of karmaidalo it's like oh God, what is happening?
Binati Sheth
@Binati_Sheth · 3:05
So this is your response, is why I wanted to have this conversation on Swell and no other platform, because over here it is so easy to contextualize things and because there's voice involved, I know there's an actual person I'm talking to. So this thing that you said, staying quiet, specifically when I should have spoken up, this is the number one issue I have with my own premise, which is being right or being peaceful
Binati Sheth
@Binati_Sheth · 4:54
I on the other hand, I'm obsessed with Japanese culture because I love the nature worship element that exists in Shinto and all the crazy history they have with Meiji restoration and all of this. So me and my grandmother, my grandmother was an educator, so having a conversation with her was possible, right? We used to talk about this a lot and this thing that you said which is there is some worth in presenting your point of view. My grandmother taught me this unconsciously
Binati Sheth
@Binati_Sheth · 3:57
It definitely helps me, let's say, refine my own perspective about this because that's what it is, right? That's why discussions like these odd little small little things that bother you at the back of your head, which may be technically have broader, wider consequences because that's how you choose to live your life on the daily. So, yes, I'm going to be focusing on the choices that I make in specific moments of time rather than having generalizations of right or peaceful moving forward
gungun bansal
@gungunbansal_ · 1:16
I know in myself that I am right. I need to make the peace out of that thing. There's a friend of mine, I don't even consider her as my friend. I would just say there's a colleague of mine, she's so aggressive about her being right that if this conversation going on, if you didn't agree with her, she is going to turn that conversation into a fight. Irrespective of the fact that whether she's wrong or she is right. Okay
Binati Sheth
@Binati_Sheth · 0:34
Absolutely. That is what it is about, isn't it? Be the mature person in the conversation. You don't need someone's validation about being right. You know when you are right and you suspect when you might be wrong. Right. So absolutely love your approach. And I like how you call her a colleague. That is it. Brilliant. Always know the people who are good for you and not not good for you. Best of luck