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I wanted them to see sir crying, to realize that it's okay for men to cry, that men are emotional beings, that men can and should be able to show their emotions, that it's not a sign of weakness, but it's a sign of strength, in a way. A strength of recognizing that you are human and that crying is a part of being human
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 2:32
It's such an interesting day on Swell because I just listen back to back to two swells, one about toxic masculinity and the other about tears and how men cry and don't cry yours. And it's wonderful because what's most compelling to me is the exploration of the human experience and all that it entails, especially when we kind of dig into what society expects from us versus what comes natural to us
Zara Lisbon
@ZLisbon · 4:47
Of us who maybe don't fit. Like what if you are a man who has never cried and in fact, you, in today's society, wish you were able to. And everyone's saying real men cry. I think what you said was really perfect. Like, real men can and should cry. They can. The point is that not that they should cry if you're not a cry. I mean, look, I'm on antidepressants that make crying really hard for me
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Benedict Garrett
@Bendi_G · 3:21
They don't have the words words and the language to be able to do so. Crying is their way of expressing their discontentment and sadness and anger at things. And as we get older, we cry because we for formulated words, but we still have a need to be able to express our sadness and our upsets, and sometimes that manifests itself with tears. I'm rambling now again, but I just want to say thank you for your contribution
Benedict Garrett
@Bendi_G · 4:33
And also the point you make about the nuances, I think that's why this is such a wonderful app, wonderful idea that people are able to explain and contextualize their own lives, really, in five minutes, which I think is probably enough time. And you can always add another post if you wish, to another swell. Sorry. So what a wonderful opportunity and to hear people like you responding and sharing your talent and your skills and your views
Joe Staton
@Staton_The_Fact · 4:51
My instinct is I had a moment today where I started crying and I was with someone and before I knew it, I was out the door because the worst thing in the world would be if someone was to see me cry. And it's insane. It's pure insanity because I should be allowed to just be there and cry in front of someone. But it's a weird mental state in which I don't feel safe
Benedict Garrett
@Bendi_G · 4:58
I want to just go into another room and don't want people to see me cry. That could be because sometimes our crying faces are not always the most attractive of faces. We become a bit self conscious of how we look when we're crying. But there are other times when I'm crying and I just don't want to have to explain myself. That's the other thing you said. People ask, you been crying. Is everything okay?
Hi. This is such a good topic and I felt great to listen this. And this is very unique way to express
I think there was a point in my life when I would have said that seeing a man cry would make me uncomfortable. I didn't see men crying in the moon movies that I watched growing up, and I especially had a hard time seeing my father cry at my grandmother's passing. Having been conditioned into believing that girls cry and boys don't, I guess it really was hard for me
Sreeja V
@Wordsmith · 2:19
I think the first time I was shaken when I saw a man cry was when I saw my dad cry. And it was when there was the news came in that, you know, his mom has taken a bad turn. Turn. And she was not doing well. Her health was really in a bad shape. And my dad, he was having his lunch just before leaving, taking a flight to that part of India where my grandmom was, and he just broke down
Katie Callahan
@katiecal · 3:05
And honestly, when I see my friends cry or see them get emotional, it makes me feel more connected to them because I can relate to them, be like, oh, I've felt that way before. I understand how those emotions can affect you. And seeing a guy friend cry, it makes me feel more connected to them too. It's the same thing. And I don't think crying, again as any signal weakness or any sign for your gender or your masculinity or anything like that
But, yeah, I think that it's important for all of us to honestly cry and release in that way. I think you talked about sometimes you'll just take time out to listen to sad stuff or to make yourself cry. And I do that, too. Sometimes I can tell I'm feeling emotional and I have crying spells because they deal with depressive episodes
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