Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:51
Folks who have been married for decades aren’t the best to give dating advice
And the assumption that if you have a great marriage that you somehow know how to date well, well, that could be an assumption that could be false. Everyone that's married happily didn't necessarily date well. In fact, a lot of people haven't dated. Depending on their age, the arrangement of the marriage, their various beliefs, religious and otherwise, they may have never actually dated. And even if they had, well, I think we know that dating has changed over the decades
Erica Jean
@HeyItsErica · 2:29
Plus me personally, most of what I know about the dating world is through listening to my nieces and nephews who are in their twenties. So but for sure, married people don't need to be giving or long time married people don't need to be giving dating advice. In today's climate, we could certainly encourage people in the areas of marriage, that type of area for those who are married or heading in that direction, you know, for sure
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:39
And so they're taking advice from these red Pill podcasters, and they're taking advice from a lot of these guys who have never even sniffed a serious relationship yet. They're going to tell you how you should conduct yourself in a relationship. And they ain't even got nobody. This is the world we're living in now
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 3:47
Now, I agree that, yes, sometimes your girlfriends in your circle could be messed up, you up, and that's with anything. But most the girlfriends that I have, we're all actively dating and, you know, seeking what have you. But I've had married women say, girl, don't do it because they're not happy. I've had that more. And people always use the term bitter single woman
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:41
Hey, Tanya. Happy Friday, girl. When you said RC Blakes, I almost fell out this chair because he, God bless that man of God. But brother, or should I say father, he is so far removed from the dating scene that it's just. No, no, he's so far removed from it. I've seen some of his videos because, you know, he does a whole YouTube saying, you know, ladies, if a man does this, he likes you
Erica Jean
@HeyItsErica · 2:00
Hey, Angela. Yeah? That woman is out of touch. The one who said that dating apps are the devil. She's way out of touch and out of tune. But as I mentioned before, single women live longer. Statistically, they live longer than married women. So if you have a lot of married women coming to you or that you know who are saying it's misery, more than likely they're telling the truth
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 3:06
And again, as the one who was trying to hold it together, if he didn't file, I'd probably still be in that marriage trying to hold it together, trying to be a good. A good wife, a good woman of God that keeps the family together all the while just more miserable in many ways. Yeah, him being on drugs really scared me, but even with it scaring me, it didn't scare me enough to leave
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:32
Because I'm a results oriented person. Please show me outcomes and then I'll buy in. But I'm not buying in if everybody who does this is still just as single as I am, with no real explanation. And so I don't know. I mean, I'm like your pastor. I don't know why singles aren't being drawn towards each other
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:53
Some people like being left alone and ignore. Some people like sleeping in different rooms. Some people like having more than one partner open relationships. Some people, they like the poly relationships. Some people don't want just put one person all their life and when they're gone, they give up. Everybody's different. So I do not take advice from no 1100%. Now I'll listen to different things
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 3:28
And so all the advice is hit or miss, because you could follow. I mean, it, the end of the day, like you said, what do you want? Right? Somebody might, like, get smacked upside the head, right? Somebody might like. Like, some people are very. They're not clingy. They want a relationship where it's like, we're together, but you don't bother me, and I don't bother you
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:47
But she's one that comes to mind of being super single and say, well, honey, I can get married. I want to. Well, I think I would just do it just so I can show everybody, if that's the case, show that it works. You might get a whole lot more people to sign up if that's the case, but clearly, that ain't it
javon johnson
@motoblanco · 4:38
To build something together, and so the two of you can have behalf, have happiness, and stay your relationship and maybe get married and all that stuff. It seems like it's, you know, it. The values that our parents and grandparents kind of, you know, live by been kind of pushed to the side, you know, because nowadays, a lot of people are out here kind of like, no, I'm not
Because I think for myself, no matter if you're dating or married, short term, long term, if you don't have chemistry, a emotional connection, some type of connection, and great communication, I don't care if you're dating married. It won't work anyway. Now that shit matters, right? So for me, it looks like it comes down to really knowing yourself well enough
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 3:16
Either they're under anxiety, depression, their weight is out of control, more asthma, heart issues, allergies than ever before. I remember, like, we ate all kinds of food in school. We ate peanuts. We ate peanut butter. We didn't have the nut allergies like that. I don't remember anybody in my school ever had to sit at a different table. Right? My ex is from Africa. He's never heard of a peanut allergy
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 3:55
But we'll never talk about, like, heart education, like, how to give your heart to someone. Oh, this is good stuff. Good stuff. And I'll skip to the end of your reply. As far as the question about to take advice from this really kind of came from just some of the things that I see on social media. And in particular, there was a woman. There's a woman I know. I know her in real life
The person you we meet most of the time stop performing, meaning we may not have met the person at all, the true person. Meaning the person may have been acting the whole time of who they say they were and not being honest about who they truly were. So I have a whole different take on even truth and honesty is totally different to me. Right. So I have a lot of healthy relationships because I'm completely honest