Aishani Chatterjee
@Aishani · 1:37
#DebateThis Empathy: A Quality Some Are Born With Or One That Needs To Be Consciously Inculcated?
So do you think empathy is something that we are born with, that it's a quality that some people are born with and the people who aren't born with this quality, they don't really know how it is, how one empathizes with another, or basically they don't know what empathy is and they just don't feel empathetic towards people? Or do you think this is a quality that can be and needs to be mindfully, consciously, inculcated?
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@geo_rhymes · 3:17
But in the process of growing up owing to external factors such as conditioning, societal influence and maybe even the upbringing within the family, a lot of the positive qualities tend to either be overlooked or be muted or muffled in certain ways and withhold to express only certain aspects of some qualities while hiding or restraining the other aspects. And I think I read a study somewhere. I don't remember the exact name of it
@k_a_v_y_a_p_a_t · 3:58
Those who don't show their empathy towards this external factors in this world, doesn't mean that they are just having sympathy inside them. They are not empathetic. It depends upon situations as well at times. So, yeah, it's our self reflection, what we think, what you do at times. We need to grow this quality in ourselves. People those don't show much empathy doesn't mean that they are not empathetic
Aishani Chatterjee
@Aishani · 2:31
Yes, this definitely makes a lot of sense that even though a lot depends on your social conditioning, the way someone is brought up and whether the environment that they grew up in that facilitated or that encouraged empathy, that is a key factor in determining whether a person grows up to be an empathetic individual or not
Aishani Chatterjee
@Aishani · 3:42
A lot depends on the environment that they are growing up in, the kind of nourishment, the kind of care they receive from their family, from the people around them and just how they are brought up. So a lot of what one becomes or one's personality depends on one's upbringing. And then of course, there is the matter of choice
Aishani Chatterjee
@Aishani · 2:37
But, yes, I think everyone who has been replying, I guess we all agree that at the end of the day, it is a matter of choice. And when we choose to be empathetic and we can choose to be empathetic, we can choose to be better on any given day. And it's never too late. It's never too late to choose kindness or empathy or choosing to be a safe space for other people
Yogesh Honavarkar
@SwoleAwakening · 4:52
Fortunately, I was able to get hold of him within an hour's time, as me and my wife would continue walking on the same lane to and fro. And that's when I just kind of asked him what went wrong. And he was like, sir, the food wasn't good and they didn't like it, and that's why she got angry. Well, all the waiter needed was a pat on his back and it's okay, dude. Happens sometimes
tarun sharma
@Nothattypicalhr · 1:16
And there are people who have different priorities, who look at things in a different way. Right? So I'd say, yes, we are born with this feature, but it's just that the surroundings that we grow in, that makes a difference. That how much that feature is important for us. So
Aishani Chatterjee
@Aishani · 3:02
I mean, chances are very high that person will grow up to be empathetic. But if this is something that wasn't encouraged at home, that wasn't made a mandate or that wasn't spoken about much or showed much, I think that definitely has the adverse effect of turning a person into someone who is not very attuned to other people's feelings and is basically pretty indifferent
Aishani Chatterjee
@Aishani · 4:42
In this case, the food wasn't good, according to them. And they just went off and said all these they literally insulted the waiter but who was just in charge of serving them the food and nothing more. So telling the waiter what one can do in such situations is let the waiter know that the food is either it has gone bad or whatever it is, the complaint is they can tell the waiter cordially
smile alam
@yoursmile007 · 2:16
And it always been there in you or in every human being. So when we need to focus is somewhere deep down in our heart, in our mind. We need to figure it out who we are and are we actually feeling what exactly is there in our heart and soul? It is there, it always been there. There is no point of discussion and saying that it is equally not distributed in all human beings it is distributed and it has to be like that
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Aishani Chatterjee
@Aishani · 1:04
Hey, that's definitely a very valid way to look at it, that maybe all of us are born with it. And at the end of the day, it all comes down to how much we are eager to seek that light within ourselves. And it might sound very cliche, but I think empathy is light. I believe empathy is the light of the world
smile alam
@yoursmile007 · 2:13
And in this case, people are struggling and empathy is the tool that helps others and help me to feel the same about the things happening around us and that is what help us to feel this sense of belonging in and it is what we call a collective measure to help people. Thank you very much. I hope you will reply on this
